My Reasons Why Blackmen date outside their race

For one reason or Another, Black men have had to deal with the harsh criticism of dating someone outside his race. Whether it is from African-American women, family members or other black men who exclusively date African-American Women. Black men will continually be ostracized from his own community when he decides to go this route to find happiness and love. In 2012, you would think that this type of racism would cease to exist but it doesn't, not even in our community.

Since 2009, I have Observed a silent war that has occurred within the African-American community. It is a silent war that has gone on for the past forty years, I call it the Anti-Black male movement. This movement is taking ground as I speak in 2012. Some african-american women all across the nation, have decided to write off black men like a bad check. They have decided instead, that they want to date white men because of the shortage of suitable and marriageable black men. They have written books, and aired shows that have shown black women in relationships with white men, and black women today see this as a source of empowerment.

Also with this, there has been an open dialogue within the black community on how to make black relationships work. people like Michael Baisden, Hill Harper, Steve Harvey, Iyanla Vanzant, and Aiyana Ma'at have given advice on how to work on improving black ralationships. But sometimes I wonder if this is just a hidden agenda to keep the black race a pure race of people. When I was watching BET in 2011, I started to notice that the shows that were being produced were targeting black married couples and black families. BET was trying to push a "Cosby Show" agenda in an era that was starting to become multiracial. Although BET was producing positive programming aimed at uplifting black america, underneath this positive upliftment was a complete disdained or acceptence for a multiracial america.

Not one Primetime network will produce a show aimed at interracial marriages or interracial couples. There hasn't been one show on television that has shown blackmen in relationships with white women or women of other races. and the reason behind this is because Television is afraid to tread on uncharted territory when it comes to Blackmen being in interracial relationships. But ABC doesn't have a problem showing Kerry Washington Tounge kissing a white man in Scandal.
there have been numerous books written on black women wanting to date outside there race especially for dating white men. one book that is gaining popularity right now is a book called swriling by Christelyn Denise Karazin. it is one in many self-help books that is showing black women that their are more options than dating blackmen.

For some reason today, I believe black women are dating outside there race simply to spite black men because many black women believe black men are dating outside there race because they don't like black women and because they hate black women. though that may be the case some of the time, black men date out side of there race for a variety of reasons which I will describe later in this article. But first I will get to the prime issue of why I wrote this post.

Many good, educated, and strong black men have been labled Uncle Toms, sell outs, and self-hating blacks simply because their wives are of another ethinicity or because they choose to date out execlusively. black men have been scrutinized in the media for dating outside there race and what is worse are the negative asscioations and sterotypes of black men who are in interracial relationships. For Example, Oj.Simpson and nicole brown is one but few of the negative sterotypes asscioated with black men dating interracially. many black women think because of this sterotype that the main reason why black men date white women is because we like to abuse, cheat and degrade women. and that we believe white women are more submissive to their men.

Another reason, many black women believe blackmen date outside there race is because they think we hate our mothers. but this again is far from the truth.

We have our own personal reasons as to why we have decided to date interracially, just like black women have their own set of reasons as to why they date outside their race. But why must we as black men face so much negativity because we desire someone who is not within our own race?

The simple answer is this....Black men no longer have a voice within their own community. every plight or struggle that a black woman has gone through since the 70's is blamed on the black man. We are no longer leaders within our own community.We choose to accept the disgusting behavior and twisted mentalities from a small segment of African-American women who believe African-American men are no longer a hot commodity. there is a lack of respect for manhood, and what it means to be a man. and the other larger portion of african-american women feel they no longer need black men to be providers.

Many black women complain about black men and justify dating a white man which I think is completely silly and shows just how much black women hate and dislike black men. There is a phenomenon going on of black women dating and marrying white men because they believe white men make better husbands and better providers. many of these same women will say the reason behind dating interracially is because black men are 1.Unemployed 2.lack a college education 3. are abusers 4. are thugs 5. sleep around with different women 6. are closeted homosexuals 7. always end up in prison for long sentences and 8. are deadbeat fathers. these sterotypes get thrown around ad nauseam and it has come to the point where black men are tired of these sterotypes thrown in their faces while we have to sit back and accept the shortcommings of many black women within our community.

We as African-American men are expected to live up to a certian standard that is set by an african-american woman if we do decide to date them. many will not bat an eye as to look at a black man who doesn't a number of these things. 1.god-fearing 2.employed 3.has his own house and car 4. makes a certian salary 5. is physically fit 6. is respectful 7. has no criminal record 8. doesn't smoke or drink 9. doesn't have any baggage 10. is perfect in every way possible! If we don't meet this criteria, we are deemed undesirable to a black woman. not to mention if she senses a single flaw in your personality she will drop you completely! if a woman expects a long list of demands like this, it is clear she doesn't want a good black man at all.

Every expectation that black women make is based on material items as opposed to personality. an African-American woman will not look at a black man who is in college, is getting his education and is striving to be the best man he can be. constantly on college campuses you will see black women turning down black men who have a serious head on their shoulders. and you will see many black women dating the very opposite of who they want in a mate simply because the men on campus do not appeal to them. And then when they have dated those types of men, the men who were abusive to them in previous relationships. they will run back to those very men who they labled boring,too nice, or not man enough.

and when these women run back to the good black men who ten years later have the house, the car, and the good career it comes with a price to pay. This price that these good men pay is for taking on their baggage, there lack of trust, and there sincere hate for black men. and what happens is you will have to be the healer, the man, and the rescuer in order for her to trust you. and if you make one mistake she will already assume in her mind that your not good enough for her standards and you will have to constantly prove yourself over and over again to her that you are a good man.

Why do black men deserve that? why should we have to prove our self worth to a black woman? why must we fight to keep a relationship with a black woman when we know all it is going to lead to is drama?

For every reason that a black woman has justified in not dating us we have our reasons as to why we don't date many black women either.

1. Nasty attitude
2. Selfish and self-centered
3. overly controlling
4.overlysensitive
5.very picky and has unrealistic standards
6. Bossy and domineering
7. has trust issues with every man she meets
8. has baggage issues
9. is not comfortable with her body
10. has hair issues
11. lack of femininity
12. multiple childern out of wed-lock
13. overlymasculent
14. Violent and Aggressive
15. mental issues
16. weight issues
17.uses educational attainment and career status to signify her independence
18. over dominates the man in a relationship and belittle his accomplishments
19. overly assertive
20. Non-Supportive
21. Daddy issues
22. lack of domestic skills or meternal qualities
23. Materialistic
24. Workaholic
25. can not play a role in a stable marriage


of course some African-American woman might read this and say your bitter or jaded, but the fact still remains is that good black men are tired of wasting their precious years on execlusively dating black women. they are tired of fighting, arguing, and wondering could it be just me? Or could it be her?

of course you attract who you are and if your damaged goods then you going to attract damaged goods as well! I learned that lesson many times with the women I was involved with, and now I have decided to take a new route to finding my own happiness. Granted there are good black women out there but the likelyhood that a black man will find a decent black woman is like playing the lottery! your just not gonna win!

Back men have tried over and over to make a relationship with a black woman work. but to tell a black man he shouldn't date out and shaming him for trying to be with a woman that is not black is racist to the extreme!

Black women don't own black men and vice versa! We don't owe you a justification as to why we date who we date! But we will give you a justification as to why we date interracially.

1.We love who we love reguardless of color
2. femine traits
3.approachable
4. they appreciate us as men
5. is comfortable with themselves
6.smart
7.athletic and social
8.spontenious
9. sexually adventrous
10. supportive
11. domestic skills and maternal qualities
12. Submissive but not subserviant!
13. raises kids with values
14. promotes education in their childern
15. Compassionate
16.faithful to the very end

*NOTHING TO DO WITH COLOR!

now I can understand that not all interracial relationships are fail safe because some do end in divorce like all relationships do! but when you look at the numbers and the probability of those relationships failing it is very low!

My message to Black men who constantly feel stigma over dating interracially, the next person who stares at you, ignore them. the next black man or black woman who makes a comment shaming you for dating outside your race tell them to fuck off! because you are responsible for your own happiness! They arn't!

I wouldn't care what other people think about me if I had an opposite race on my arm. it doesn't even matter, what matters is Im happy and she makes me feel happy!

For men who are tired of going through the drama and the pain of dating interracially, ignore the naysayers and the bitter black people who seek to destroy your happiness!


My Advice for men who want to Date interracially without problems is this

1.Get rid of all your baggage from previous relationships, come to terms with yourself first before you decide to jump into the alternative.

2. Avoid using any race of woman as a pawn to spite black women, its not fair to her nor is it fair to you!

3. Avoid negative family members who will judge you on your choice in a mate, surround yourself with positive people at all times!
4.Avoid judging black women of any kind while your out with your date, be courteous and respectful at all times.
5.Drop the sterotypes, and hold women of other races to the same standards that you hold yourself to
6. don't ignore redflags! hold each person you date accountable!

if you follow these rules nothing can stop you from being happy!

BLACKMAN Go and be Happy!

Why HBCU's are Irrelevant in the Obama era

Before I make my point, let me make this disclaimer. In no way am I writing this article to put down all HBCU's or to make brash and condescending remarks about them.

I love attending HBCU's and my experience at these institutions is one that centers around being apart of a family that takes care of its own.

In the light of the Robert Champion hazing incident at Florida A&M University, one would question how relevant are HBCU's in the age of the nations first black president?

I ask this question simply because if HBCU's are suppose to develop black students into scholars then why are we engaging in activities that put people in a position to be made inferior? why do black students want to be apart of an entity instead of being individuals?

At HBCU's Hazing activities are often looked at as a rite of passage into a band or a Greek letter organization. these activities could go from being mild to extremely severe! and some could even cause death. these activities include "Taking Wood", reciting each of your line brothers names, memorizing the Greek letter alphabet, memorizing the chapter and national history, doing chores for your brothers, memorizing chants, handshakes, and most times taking a beating before you cross over.

How could a matriculating student be able to focus on college if they have to go through this just to be apart of some organization that probably won't be around when he graduates?

HBCU's pride themselves on this type of activity. Hazing during the 60's and 70's was suppose to make a man or a woman out of you. it was also used as a reminder of where you came from and that you stood on the backs of individuals that went through the same ordeal. and if you chose not to get hazed you would be known as a "skater".

this is the type of mentality that still exists at HBCU's the fact that even if you got into an organization as a full fledge member you will still not be considered a brother or a sister of their organization in the same respects as most members who went through the hazing process.

also if a person was hazed and died in the process of the incident, the organization would not have any remorse or sympathy for that member; not even the university itself.

what is very irresponsible about this incident is that black people are willing to stand by these institutions for the sake of preserving the legacy while letting an individuals death be excused as a PR stunt to protect the universities image of being a proud institution of learning. yet these types of activities go on at predominately White institutions as well. Why? because most black Greek letter organizations are housed under the National Pan Hellenic Council so the argument still stands that hazing is not a white Greek letter problem but A black problem! most people say that I am being biased about this issue for the simple fact that hazing goes on at all schools. but the fact still remains that this is embraced at HBCU's.

since the death of Robert Champion, Florida A&M University will probably return back to being an image of a proud institution that took the life of one of there own. the president will probably bat an eye to this situation since the school was not responsible. but he was responsible and all HBCU's were responsible for Robert Champions death.

aside from this incident, A Mother and her family will no longer be able to see their child walk across the stage. and yet he went to a so called institution of higher learning just to die in order to be apart of a band.

we send our children to these institutions every year, and yet you never know whether your child is going to come back home with degree or in a casket. simply because you wanted to become apart of an entity.

many black colleges, pride themselves on being known for their legacy, the wildest homecomings, the loudest bands and the finest men and women. yet they never pride themselves on being the best institution for an education.

I say this for many reasons, my first reason is because when you look at white institutions education is prided first and foremost when attending places like Penn state, Harvard, and Yale. at HBCU's they pride themselves as a school that offers great a great legacy while education takes a back seat to things like life on the yard, fine men and women, and the best parties.

In October 2006 when I was just starting my junior year of High School, I attended a college fair with my high school. when walking pass the many tables that didn't interest me I decided to walk over to the Tuskegee University table to pick up some information. all I knew about Tuskegee was Booker T Washington and that was it. I went over to another table called Bethune Cookman college and that's when I was hooked. I didn't want to go anywhere else except Bethune cookman simply because it was near daytona beach and i would not have to travel far to go to Miami or Disney world. by November 2006, I was blinded by a light called Howard University and that's when I wanted to go there and nowhere else.

my parents wanted me to go to Morgan State simply to get my foot in the door, but I tried so many times not to go to Morgan simply because I was from Baltimore and because I knew Morgan was nothing more than a college level high school. Once I got into Morgan State, all I wanted to do was get a degree and get the hell outta there because Morgan was known as the school that graduated students in seven years! when I went to the open house in February 2008, the only major I had my sights set on was the communications department. there was no other major I wanted to go into because I knew when I got out; I wanted to be a filmmaker!

When I entered my freshmen year, that point was the make you or break you year! i gotta 3.1 GPA my first semester, great starting out! but as I progressed further into my major I started to encounter problems. when I took a media writing class my freshmen year, i had a professor named jam Donaldson an adjunct who traveled from DC to Baltimore just to teach classes. my classmates knew her from the famous blog called HotGhettomess.com. you could tell this was not a regular professor because a professor doesn't make excuses for not showing up for class. she was teaching evening classes which were three hours long! she missed three weeks simply because 1. she got robbed, 2. her dog got sick and 3. somebody stole her car!

we were required to do assignments that did not give insight into basic media writing ever! she was very sarcastic and was very anal to her students. and yet she was fired the next following semester. during the semester of 2009, I volunteered for the spokesmen insider a broadcast journalism TV show. In the process of joining that organization and WMSU-TV, I was not able to check out any cameras since there was a shortage of equipment and since I was not registered to take a production class. eventhough I was a production major, I was not able to produce anything since I had not taken a class! During the summer of 2009, the advisor of The Spokesman newspaper was fired over an article over an article that was published by a student. this incident was clearly a violation of student free speech rights.

In fall 2009, I took a basic media studies class and this one professor just lectured about conspiracy Theories, Cointelpro and capitalism. he was so adamant in telling us about our black history that we failed to even learn about how media works! he even showed us the articles of confederation, and Mao's little red book. instead of this class being about media it was about getting ready for the Revolution!

In spring 2010, I had another professor for humanities class she was in her seventies, and all she could do is ramble on about how blackmen had a golden opportunity and how the dropout rate of high schoolers is higher for black men than it was for women. and we only went over black books like things fall apart, Richard wright, and Langston Hugues.

Aside from these types of classes, my school overall was lacking the fundamentals for me to be successful! I was going to a school where we had a lack of smart classrooms and lecture halls. we had no wireless Internet connection! and the people were plain rude and disrespectful to students. we had a new library, yet it was just a hangout spot for students to get on the computer and the books were as old as the campus itself!

HBCU's Pride themselves on providing an education to prepare you for the future, but when we talk about the future were not talking about living in the past! HBCU's still carry themselves as only a "Black Institution" deeply rooted in Social Justice! yet this is the very type of mentality that will disenfranchise us as a people because we are too stubborn to realize that the real world is no longer segregated or socially disenfranchised!

I loved my HBCU, but I could no longer stand by and support them when Hazing incidences like this continue to happen!

When I was living in a dorm at Morgan State I got to see the rough side of what an HBCU really stood for. It stood for smoking weed, drinking, going to frat parties, having sex with multiple women. and getting shot and robbed late at night! and yet we were waking up the next morning and going to class where people came in late, and just didn't give a two cents worth about what they learned. not to say that this doesn't happen at other schools, but this was priority over everything academic at Morgan State. And when Home Coming came around like always it was about the parade, football games, coronation, pep rallies, and fraternities coming back to campus.

And yet once they graduate, they'll always see racism around every corner in the workplace. because they were conditioned to think that the world evolves around them simply because they are black. one thing I can fault HBCU's for is the lack of diversity and their lack of recruiting students from different racial backgrounds. when I attended Morgan, I didn't see one white student on campus until 2010! and most of the racial make up of Morgan's campus is below 1%. many of the African and Caribbean students on campus were nowhere to be seen on campus unless it was in the school of engineering! and yet most of the white students were made to feel marginalized on their campus.

HBCU's are practicing a form of reverse discrimination when they marginalize white students and other races in their campus community. and being that Morgan was deeply rooted in Afrocentric views, it would make the campus an unfriendly environment for students of other races. this year I encountered a problem when my major was not offered at the institution, I talked to the dean about a major that was offered but did not have instructors to provide for the courses under the new track that the claimed the offered. the dean had told me that I would have to wait a whole year just to provide instructors for the new major yet I had already took an Introductory course for that particular track. I was trying to graduate yet this was the only thing that held me up, a lack of instructors! And that's when I decided that I had enough of Morgan State..... So I Transferred!

I loved my HBCU, but I could not tolerate their setbacks any longer! they had too many teachers in my major that did not know what they were teaching, and many of them had no industry experience in the field I was majoring in. Many of the students at Morgan care only about one thing Parties, sex, and weed! when class was over, it was over! and then back to smoking weed in the dorm. and yet once we walk across the stage where supposed to be ready to take on Corporate America. but yet, some go back home to their parents unemployed, some end up taking a job at a place like rite aid, and some become academic advisers and faculty members at the institution they graduated from.

I've seen it way to many times at a School like Morgan State, you stay for seven years and then you graduate only to come out unprepared and not ready to work! My family members have pushed me into going to Morgan Simply because it was their Alma mater.

I did want to transfer to Howard University but I would have lost credits. when I thought about it, I would have been transferring for the wrong reasons. one of those reasons was simply because Howard was known for its legacy of creating Doctors, lawyers, and Engineers. not the fact that I wanted an education but because I wanted an education from a black school that was well known.

Even before I applied to Howard University I knew it was a party school and they were known for their homecomings but their educational programs in the brochures still took a back seat to "THE YARD" I was obsessed with Howard to the point that I would have done anything just to get in there. but in reality Howard was no different than Morgan State! only difference was it was in DC.

Howard Was in the center of a place known as SHAW and Georgia Ave. everybody knows that northwest DC was one of the most roughest places in DC that you could ever pass through, let alone walk. I had heard stories from my professor that Howard students were not allowed to wear their paraphernalia off campus because many people around the area disliked Howard students and they ran the chance of getting shot or robbed! they were disliked in the same respects that the black bourgeois was disrespected. and Howard has always been seen as a threat to the neighbors that lived and reside in Le Driot Park. one of the many reasons why I decided not to transfer to Howard was because the school lacks the technology needed to be prepared for the job market. Howard was nothing more than a campus that prided itself on the Divine nine and their famous alumni.

Howard as opposed to Morgan rested upon their traditions while still lacking the tools needed to prepare a student to enter the workforce, I'm not saying Howard is a bad school but like many other HBCU's its lacks the proper tools! and diversity is also an important element that is still not embraced at campuses like Howard.

If you just graduated from an HBCU and all you have been around is a bunch of black students during your entire matriculation through college wouldn't it be a disservice to you if you went in to the workforce and all you saw were Latinos, Asians, and whites? and yet an HBCU is teaching you to be just what they prepared you to be "BLACK" and to see everything in this world only as Black and white.

when you go into the workplace, everybody is not just a color! they are individuals just like us, and when you attend an HBCU you only cut yourself off from a worldly perspective. Places like NYU, Harvard, MIT, Yale, and other racially diverse colleges embrace diversity and I believe that it is time for HBCU's to drop these Afrocentric traditions and embrace multiculturalism for the 21st century.

we are no longer in the civil rights movement anymore. we are still fighting for fundamental things in America. but how are we going to fight for those things, if we have an education that can't even compete with the ivy leagues.

at a Predominately white institution, you will still run into racism, and racial conflict. but this is reality! there is nothing new about racism, it is everywhere but if it is a school that has the fundamental tools to provide me with a better education, then there I will go! if James Meredith could fight racial segregation to get admitted into "Ole MISS" then I can go to a white institution and still get a good education because someone broke those doors open in order for me to have a better opportunity for me to succeed. if I only went to a college simply because it was a black school, then I would only be adding to my own disenfranchisement as a black person.

If we look at President Obama we can see that he got his education from schools like Occidental College and Columbia University. many of our black leaders got their education from HBCU's and yet they still see racism and play the race card every chance they get!

Rev. Jesse Jackson got his education from North Carolina A&M University and yet he has made inflammatory remarks against Jewish people by referring to them as Hymie's! and he has also made remarks against Obama threatening to castrate him! and yet he is suppose to be bringing people together. HBCU's are still living in the civil rights era.

I'm not saying that Black Colleges should get rid of their heritage but it should be redefined to embrace other cultures. One thing that HBCU's can do away with is Greek letter Organizations! they are nothing more than a bunch of cliques that go around stomping and shouting and yelling chants and calls. these are the same people that call you their brother or sister yet they will make you bend over and "take wood" for the sake of some stupid greek letters. or if you don't your a "SKATER"! HBCU's need to put more priority on education instead of BANDS, and football games! HBCU's need to readjust their priorities. because in the end, there not about an education there about reminding you that you are black!

and we wonder why places like Morris Brown College can't hardly stay open!

you wonder why we have things like the UNITED NEGRO COLLEGE FUND

Because these schools are barely able to stay open without the proper funding.

White Institutions remain opened because their alumni give back to the institution, they come back and donate large sums of money and a building named after them!

A majority of HBCU's are funded by the federal goverment!

things like the freedmen's Bureau were created to help slaves after the civil war

And HBCU's were created to Help newly freed slaves get an education, and yet they bare the names of white men who created these institutions simply because slaves could not go to Havard, Yale, Or Penn State.

reverand Lyttleton Morgan (Morgan State) General Oliver Otis Howard (Howard University) and Sammuel Chapman Armstrong (Hampton University)

Their were many purposes for HBCU's

1. to train free slaves to become Ministers

2. to train free slaves to become good field laborers

3. to train them in the liberal arts

4. and to train them in vocational fields

this was the main mission of HBCU's during that time and HBCU's will now have to be redfined if it has any chance of surviving well into the 21st century.

we are now living in a new age, and we need to do away with Land grant colleges that were founded for the purpose of training its students to be farmers in Agriculture when instead it should be redefined as a school that trains its students for Green Technology or Green Engineering.

If I had a son or a daughter, I would not push them to go to just an HBCU simply because it is A BLACK College. I would advise them to look at the overall picture of what they are getting into. I would tell them to look at the school that would provide them with the best education to prepare them for the real world and not just to be BLACK! I would tell them to go to a school where people respect you as an individual and not beat you down simply because you want to belong to a greek letter society. I would tell them to go to a school that puts academics as a #1 priority over things like athletics, greeks, and bands.

If my sons and daughters go away to college I want to make sure they don't come back to me in a pine box! and I want to make sure Im paying for their tution instead of their Funeral Arrangements.

I want to make sure my sons and daughters don't lose an eye or hearing in their ears simply because they wanted to be apart of an organization. I want to make sure they can be able to sit in a chair without "taking wood" across the backside.

I want my sons and daughters to know that they should be LEADERS and you don't need a pact to follow when you are your own leader.

When you decide to join or pledge a Greek letter organization you give up one of the most important things that makes you the person you are... Your individuality! once you join, you belong to them! so you eat, sleep, and think it!

that is the only thing you have on your mind!

and yet once your in, you will see who is a real brother or sister to you then!

you will see who will have your back! you will see who cares about you!

Because in the end, you wanted to be apart of their organization!

HBCU's are no longer relvant to this new era because they still lack proper funding!

ever since I told my friends and family that I transffered to Towson University. I was met with harsh crticism and have been labled a sellout and an Uncle tom. yet I still continue to say to myself, would I continue to stand by Morgan for its lack of resorceses, lack of instructors and outdated buildings?, or would I choose to go to a school that would be able to prepare me for the real world?

I deserved a Proper education! I know I will be met with challenges at Towson but I know they have a decent Libarary where the books and sources are always updated and there is someone around the corner to help me prep for a test!

Morgan offered no pathway to Graduation! and if I had continued to stay at that school, they would have continued to rob me of an opportunity to compete with people who went to the ivy league and regionally diverse schools.

when I was in high school, I had a teacher who was a graduate of Johns Hopkins University when she ask me what college I wanted to go to I told her i wanted to go to Havard University!

she was proud of me when I told her that because I was aiming for better and I wouldn't settle

when I told my parents I want to go to NYU they cussed me out and told me I was going to Morgan State!

To major in Engineering!

so to conclude, I would like to say to always tell your childern to always be yourself and never under any circumstances degrate yourself for the sake of a group! I was in many groups around campus and yet when I spoke out about certain issues I was repirmanded for it! and everytime i was force to apoligize for it I felt marginalized for my own convictions and opinions. so that's when I decided to leave the group!

no one has the right to silence me for my opinions, even if they offend some. I will never put myself in a position to be a pawn for an organization! PERIOD!

"Remember you Represent an entity bigger than yourself"!-S.M.O.O.T.H MR. Anthony Lampkin

what I realized after this quote was said to me, is that when you join an organization you become apart of them! and everything you do outside that organization reflects on them!

I gave up my individuality for a semester so that I can join a group of men who were known around campus as S.M.O.O.T.H. yet the reasons why I signed up were for community service and yet they were just a group of people standing around throwing events and meetings. I chose to leave the group prematurley because of a stunt they pulled in order to teach me a lesson!

I was invited by a Fellow S.M.O.O.T.H brother to perform spoken word on stage at one of their events. and yet one of the coordinators for the event did not even give me a chance to do my mic check properly and so he cut me off since I did not audition for the show. yet I was still able to go on stage since I was a S.M.O.O.T.H Brother! they had not heard my works before so when i performed my poem I was quickly snatched off stage for the content of my poem and then the next week I was forced to stand in front of a room full of my S.M.O.O.T.H brothers and apologize to them for simply being an artist and expressing myself through spoken word. yet they wanted me to perform!

I learned many things from this, I drop my guard as a man because I was willing to put myself out there for the sake of a group, I stripped myself of what made me a unique individual in order to join an organization, and the ones that claimed they were my brothers were not really my brothers at all because a real brother doesn't shame another for expressing himself! and a real brother doesn't judge a person by the poems he writes.

to make a long story short. Parents always tell your child to embrace their individuality and never force your childern to go to just a black school because your child could very well end up just like Robert Champion.

we send are kids to schools like this everyday to get an education but yet most comeout learning the bare minimum that could get them a decent job.

Robert Champion should be a wake-up call to us just like the death of emmitt till was a wake up call to the civil rights movement!

we need to think about and question what type of institutions we are sending our childern to everyday! we need to push our childern to consider more racially diverse schools. we need to send them to schools that have up to date technology and not just a black school simply because you need to appreciate your heritage.

Florida A&M University will probely go on to do their homecomings and band shows while the mother of Robert Champion has to live with the fact that she has no son simply because he was hazed to death!

JUST SAY NO TO HAZING!

and Just say no to HBCU's

Educated Blacks Vs. Uneducated Blacks

I ran into my older Step-brother today whom just got out of prison two years ago for doing fifteen years for being an acessory to an armed robbery and kidnapping his friends committed. you can say he was just another brother in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Whats worse is that he stole jewlery from my father and now he has a nerve to come back to my father at the age of 30 pleding for money and yet he has five childern out of wed-lock, a wife with no high school diploma and three kids of her own, unemployeed, and he owes child support to multiple women.

Now Im a child that has gone to school almost his whole life. you could possibly say I grew up in school entrenched in my books. I never ran the streets, I was never brought home by the police, I never did drugs, and I was always on the honor roll almost every semester in school. I am a shining example of what a black boy should be.

but as that is the case, my own father thinks differently of me. when he goes out to do his job in the neighborhood, he will brag about my achivements to other people to prove that he did his job in raising me. but the fact is, he really didn't raise me; he was a "provider". Providers are the type of men that believe money is a subsitute for love. sorta like paying child support without bonding with your son. although I can say my father was there for me, I cant really say he raised me. My mother and five aunts raised me because they nurtured me, taught me how to tie my shoes at age six, brought me my first libaray card, and all the other essential things a boy should have in order to be developed. my father did do somethings with me as a child, but now that I am older all he does is drink beer, cut grass, and yell at me about how he is the man of the house.

no matter what I do he always gives me the third degree about everything and scolds me to the point that his words cut at the depths of my soul. "BE A MAN! BE A MAN! BE A MAN! he yells aloud at me as if I am the problem. now I have never disrespected my parents, but they always told me to stand up for myself whenever someone disrespects me.

I will not allow nobody, not even my father to talk to me any old kind of way, I've always respected my parents but at a certain point we have to draw a line of respect to keep OUR self-respect from being damaged.

I know what being a man is! Being a man is about having standards and values for yourself, being a man means getting an education and applying it to your own life, being a man is about not associating with people who engage in criminal behavior, being a man is about taking responsibility for your actions, being a man is about resilience and perserverence, and being a man is about having respect for women and not running around impregnating multiple women.

If my father is so quick to tell me about what a man is supposed to be, why can he tell that to my step-brother?

If im in college trying to get an education, why cant a father be happy for a son thats trying to achive something greater than himself?

And here I sit, 11am on a saturday morning eating IHOP with my step-brother while my father sits at the table Pacifying my step-brother as if he were a baby talking to him in a soft and suttle voice to appease his conscience for a self-inflicted situation he created. need I say that this man is a convict, 30 years old with a wife and five iligitamate childern from different women. and yet he is the person on my fathers side who gets this type of preferential treatment.

If I were my father, I would treat my step-brother the way he treats me. I would get a bottle of colt 45 and drink it with a full bottle of gin, and back him into a corner and yell "BE A MAN"! "BE A MAN"! "BE A MAN"! "WIPE THOSE FUCKIN TEARS OUT YOUR EYES AND BE A MAN"!

And then he'll know how it feels to feel like a piece of shit when you aint done nothing wrong, but make your parents happy! he'll know how it feels, when you gotta look over your back to wonder if somebody is watching you from behind!

My own father spends eighty dollars on him just to get food for his childern, knowing that money has to be saved for me to continue my matriculation through college.

These are the type of blackmen I can not stand, if you are supposed to be a husband you are not supposed to be asking for handouts. My step-brother took the punk way out of his responsibilities as a man and that is why Iam more determind than ever to finish my college degree.

Why is it that brothers like him, who go around spreading his seed in different women always get the handouts in the black community?

why are black people so dependent on welfare and government assistance checks?

and yet, it is brothers like me who are blamed for looking down on my whole race when I offer them advice to get out of their situation. Who the fuck is this uppity ass nigga?

"Oh! he think he better than us just because he got a college education"!

everytime a brotha gets ahead, the hood niggas always find ways to beat up on brothers with intellect.

My good friend Ryan once told me, "if I want to blast Frank Sinatra out of my car radio while Im rollin through the hood, then fuck them Im a do what I want to do because thats who Iam"!

smart black kids have been labled Steve erkel or Carlton Banks simply because they are smart kids.

On occassion I have even been called Malcolm X all way throughout high school because of my views on black history.

why is it the uneducated blacks bring down the educated kids? is it such a crime to be a smart blackman?

people like Edmund Perry, a black kid who was raised in harlem. went to a boarding school in New Hampshire and graduated with honors. he recieved a scholarship to Stanford University only to have it wiped away from him by an officer who shot him in self-defense. and eventhough the shooting was justified, its just another sad case of how a brother with an opportunity could lose everything by being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

it seems when brothers try to make it out of the ghetto, people in the ghetto try to find ways to set that person two steps back. If you went to the NBA and came back to the hood only to find your-self caught in a stop snitching dvd case, your reputation as a basketball player is over.

And if you try to help everybody out in the hood when you got to the top, niggas would be stealing from you, robbing you, and suing you. (Ask MC Hammer)!

This is why it is fundamentaly important to have an education, an education will help you to expand your mind beyond what you are use to seeing. if black people are ever going to go anywhere in life you have to have a college degree. now it is not a gurantee to a instant job or instant success. But a college degree will help you to take broad knowledge and apply it to the real world so that it can benifit your life. if a door doesn't open for you, you can create one an walk through it.

I believe every black person has the potential to get an education and create more doors for our people to walk through. Booker T. washington once said "we can be seperate as the five fingers, but one as the hand in all things essential to mutual progress". black people must stick together if we are going to help each other to reach the goal of economic development within our communities. We are losing our neighborhoods to whites day by day because we don't own anything and we depend on government welfare instead of building it for ourselves. and yet the jews, the hispanics, and the italians are able to stick together and build their neighborhoods up and keep certain types of people out of them. (LIKE US)! blacks will never be able to get along because we hate each other and we rob and kill one another over senseless shit like shoes, cars, and girls.

when guys like me try to offer people advice on how to get off of welfare and WIC, they look at me like im the uppity black that came to town and told them that these niggas were worthless. but what I tell people is if you want something in life you must have that piece of paper to open the doors to opportunity, if you don't then good luck because they don't offer entry-level jobs to Dropouts.

What Hoodrats need to stop doing is blaming guys like me for telling them the straight up truth, that you having babies out of wed-lock is foul and you need to get your tubes cut by planned parenthood in order to stop the mass epidemic of Bastard Childern walking the streets with no father in sight because he is somewhere kickin it with one of his side chicks on the low.

and what people from the ghetto need to do is get up everyday and go to the libaray and read a book for a few hours. we have a free Libaray USE IT! I get sick and tired of seeing black kids go into a libaray and go straight for the computer just to get on facebook, and twitter. go open a book for five minutes and expand your mind.

and another thing we need to do is stop putting down the smart black people, they worked hard to get where they are and if they wanted to help YOU! it would be up to them. either way don't expect a handout form anyone simply because your from the hood!

My father told me when I was in the car today, "You don't need an education to survive in this world, look at how I turned out"!

Ok! you've only made it up to junior year of high school, you've been a janitor almost your entire life. and on top of that it is menial work and you haven't move up the ladder, you know why? because it is domesticated work which means it doesn't have any benifits nor is it a secure job with fringe benifits.

A Job and A Career are two different things in this new Century.

My mother has a high school Diploma and she is a trained Nurse, and eventhough it is domesticated. that is a Career because nursing requires training as you progress through your position. THAT IS A CAREER!

Janitors mop floors, clean bathrooms, take out trash, clean tables, and buff floors and requires no training, or no certifications THAT IS A JOB!

Bachelor's Degree- Requires you to pass a level of classes, take comprehensive examinations, and work on a project that requires you to use the classroom theories you were taught and apply them to a senario within the professional environment. That is A CAREER!

A Career is a Pathway that helps to determine how much potential you have to make it to the top

in order to lead, you must serve first!

And when you have made it to the top of your career level, you can break away and start your own and be your own boss. and retire of the fruits of your labor. THAT IS A CAREER!

When you have Secure Stock, 401k pensions, and a bank account with an invstment firm like citibank and Merril Lynch then you are SECURE for life because you have an education that lead to a career that lead to a pathway of you being your own boss!

When you can afford to buy a bigger house with a mortage that cost 2500 a month then you can say I don't need an education.

If I quit college now and said I dont need an education, I wouldn't have any of these things because you know why!

Im Not Warren Buffet!

Im not Bill Gates!

Im Not Mark Zuckerburg!

Those guys didn't need college because their WHITE!

But since Im Black I need a Phd in order to say Im Secure!

A Bachelors Degree will put me at $25-35,000 A year!

A Masters Degree will Put me at $55-75,000 A Year!

A PhD will put me at 75,000-100,000 A Year!

So I still Don't need an education now right?

so together my parents are worth $45,000 a year thats barely MIDDLE CLASS!

A single person makes $45,000 a year with a masters degree thats about 3750 a Month! is what a single person would make.

that wouldn't barely be enough to support a family in this day and age! maybe back in 1975 befor hyperinflation but not in this ducade!

if a couple were married today, both with masters under there name making 55,000 a year each; there combined in come would be $110,000 which would be upper class and there net worth would be $9,166.66 a month! that is enough to put kids through college and mortage two homes and two cars.

so lets look at it from a PHd point, both spouses are professors and Tenured, and make $100,000 a year would make a combined income of $200,000 and a net worth of 16,666.66 a month!

so lets put it this way! 45,000 a year? or 200,000 a year?

You still think an education isn't worth it?

Like many people I still believe that you can achieve the american dream if you work hard and pay your dues you will reap the benifits!

I bust my ass every day in school, so that my childern wont have to when they grow up!

I get three hours of sleep everynight just make sure my paper is typed for the next day!

I get up 5am during a cold winter morning, bust my ass on some ice, and sleep in the holmes hall lounge so I can get some extra sleep before my 8am class

I study at home when my father blasts his music while im trying to type a paper for my next class

I get charlie horses in my leg at night due to the long icy walks down Cold spring lane

But I don't do it just because I have to, I do it because my acestors did it as well because they were determind to get an education.

Booker T. Washington walked from northern Vriginia to Hampton University with no shoes on in order to obtain a vocational education in order to become self sufficient as a man

and if it were not for this, there would not be a Tuskeegee University

WEB Dubois was the first black man to obtain his Phd from Harvard University to become a tenured professor at Fisk, Wilberforce, And Atlanta University.

these two men did not say education is worthless, they took their education and established two schools of thought.

So when I hear black people making excuses for not rising to the bars of exclence then I must say that THERE ARE NO EXCUSES! YOU EITHER GO HARD! OR GO HOME!

Because Life has no time for slackers.

so Educated or Uneducated, we owe are Ancestors. so we must begin to build for ourselves so that we can become a self-sufficient race!

SO don't tell me to Be a MAN! because when I came into the world I was Already A MAN!

God made me A MAN! through knowledge and wisdom!

when I opened those books I became AMAN!

When Malcolm X was in Jail he became AMAN!

and when I pray to god I say AMAN!

What Boomerang Taught Me About Dating in the Professional World

So many people in this world are looking for "The One", but really dont take the time to have fun before they look to settle down. And sometimes,we put our focus into one person making us happy that we don't become content with our own happiness.

I watched a movie called Boomerang with Eddie Murphy, it was a pretty old movie; but the plot is still relevant today just as it was back in 1992. marcus Gram an Advertising Account Executive for a Marketing firm in lower manhattan. constantly finds himself wondering from bed to bed until he meets a woman named Angela an art designer and jaquline the CEO of the marketing firm. he is torn between the two because he is afraid of falling in love. when he meets jaquline, she ends up having sex with marcus only to find out that he was being used as a fling and nothing more.

Marcus learns the hard way that the same tactics he used to manipulate women into bed could be used against him to destroy his reputation, and ultimately it affects his work and his self-worth as a man. In the mist of the incident, angela helps to cheer marcus up and help bring his sprits back up. And during the time they spend together, they develop a friendship and eventually without notice fall in love.

Sometimes as men, we don't realize a good thing until its gone. I learned from eddie murphy's charecter, that today's dating game is either what my homeboys would call it a Smash N' Pass routine that men play because we don't feel the need to settle down. And most modern day women "The Sex in the city" type have found it benificial not to settle down either. In the 21st century is Marriage the standard anymore? or is it just a free for all without any obligations to make the other person happy? in a world where we become accustom to one night stands and flings, we have taken the word "Single" and turned it in to a word to be celebrated as opposed to marriage. I can understand why men and women enjoy "Singleness", people aged 18 to 25 have grown up in homes where they seen their mothers and fathers argue about financial matters and others things including extra marital affairs which ultimately end in a bitter divorce. and generation Y wants to make sure that they don't make the same mistakes their parents made. and so we've become a generation of sexual variety as opposed to the old customs of monogamy and matrimony. can marriage work in the 21st century? do we feel we need someone to validate us?

I believe that no one is obligated to make you happy nor are you obligated to make them happy. I feel if the pressure of marriage was taken off us as a generation we won't have to feel the need to be with a person simply out of validation but out of love and a wholeness that comes with sharing that love with someone else. people should be free to determine what type of relationship they want to have for themselves. people should not be forced to live a lifestyle that only formats a certain group of people. one thing I hate the most about married couples is they say, "Well, why arn't you married yet"? just because one is not married or in a relationship does not mean they are losers or undesirable it just means they enjoy being single and having fun without the pressurs of having to make someone else happy for the rest fo their lives.

I realize people lose alot of freedoms when your in a relationship or married because now you have become "One" and everything you do you have to do with your spouse. My bestfriend is in a relationship and all he does is work the whole week and by friday he just watches movies with his girl or go out to diner. Its funny, because everytime I say can we hangout he says I can't because he's doing things with his girl. when my friends get into relationships they ultimatly cut off all their friends until something bad happens in the relationship and then they come running back saying "what was I thinking"? and "Im glad that part of my life is over"! and then its back to the one night stands and sex on a late night creep to get over the pain of a bad break-up.

Why can't people just have fun? dont get me wrong, Im open to the idea of marriage but marriage is something someone should not just jump into simply because there parents are married. but because they feel ready to take that plunge into building a family. in the mist of the economic crises, I feel that the 80's and the 90's babies are going to wait until their mid to late 30's to get married. and some will eventually think long and hard before making that final step. My parents have hinted on asking me when am I going to get married? and mentally I have to tell them please Shut the fuck up! I will get married when im good and ready, im not rushing it for nobody. Im already in my early twenties and already my dad wants gradchildern, hold the fuck up! I aint even out of college yet! and already you want grandchildern. I say hell no! we got enough fucked up kids in this world. people shound't feel pressured into relationships or marriage by default. if it's not meant for you, its not meant for you! no hook ups, no blind dates! just do what you feel is comfortable to your lifestyle. sometimes I find out that people who are married got married because they were trying to please the people around them, not because they were in love. people dont have to be in a relationship to be in love. and people dont have to be married to have sex. a relationship is about expectations and if people don't clerify that from the beginning, people will get hurt.

if you want to have a sex friend just be honest, if you want to have a friend who can exchange intellectual and emotional communication just ask for it. you don't have to be in a relationship to be in love. monogamus relationships cut us off from other relationships that could be benificial to our lives. and if we can stop thinking about the one who's going to make our lives complete then we can live a stress free life of trying to put on an act to make someone else happy. no matter how much you want to make a person happy, you can only make "YOU" happy. sometimes, when we commit to a relationship or get married we miss out on seeing the world and getting to know different people.

the media wants us to think marriage is something that everyone should strive for but ultimately we see marriage as a pathway to divorce, high payments in alimony, and nasty parental custody battles. and when everything is said and done thats when the bullshit begins, arguments, running the streets late at night in order to dodge your wife, endless drinking, name-calling, and the multiple men and women they have been seeing behind your back. and the endless financial slavery that comes with keeping up a mortage and a car note and not to mention being able to put your childern through college on a shoe string budget. everything you work for goes to three places, the government, your wife, and kids. you will never see that money in your hand.

So I ask why can't we have fun? Boomerang taught me so much about dating in the professional world. some people are married to their careers, and most women do not want to be mothers. men want the freedom to see as many women as they want without owing them the status of commitment. people want to relax and have fun while making a living for themselves. and in this ducade, we may soon see more career minded men and women.

When I went to New York City, I had made a promise to myself. try to get to know as many people before settling down because ultimatly I may regret it when I do get into a relationship. i seen so many women in the big apple my head just turned. I want to try out different flavors before I settle with just one, I seen a caucasian, asian, and an african-american woman whom i would ask out for a cup of coffee in a minute. there was this one female named maria from Brooklyn whom I had a brief conversation with in Juniors resturant. she served me a milk shake with whip cream and a cherry on top and she told me what Brooklyn had to offer. One part of my mind was looking at her butt while my eyes were looking at her breasts. but, since i was in NYC for a day i decided not to give her my number. there is a whole world to be experienced as a single person we shouldn't prematurley commit to a relationship for the sake of having one. I know Im proud to be single because that just means im not responsible to make anyone happy. i determine my own happiness. and just because others want me to follow in their footsteps does not mean they can dictate my lifestyle. i am free to live however I want to. and even if i tried marriage and it didn't workout I can say atleast I tried.

in the end, I learned twelve things from the movie Boomerang.

1. See as many people as possible before you become exclusive

2. if you want to sleep around that is ok, just be responsible

3. Women want sex just as much as a man does

4. don't ever cut off your bestfriends for a woman you know your not going to eventually marry

5. don't live with each other

6. design a relationship that best fits your lifestyle

7. don't date people in the work place!

8. don't fall in love with a person until you've seen all their flaws

9. if your not ready for a relationship, don't lead a person on

10. Marriage is not for everyone!

11. Don't rush into a relationship!

12. Relax and have fun!

if we follow these rules we can have a fulfilling life with out the pressures of being in a love relationship that will have us on an emotional rollercoster ride. just have fun and stop pressing for being in a relationship because love is not all that it is cracked up to be.

Why Im Giving Up On Hip-Hop!

When you look at this picture, can you actually say that this young man will have a future in the next 25 years? I often ask myself this question. because there are so many blackmen in the rap game to the point any man who cant rhyme can pick up a mic and get a record deal.

Now I know this sounds cliche'ish, but Im not going to say Hip-hop is dead! Im not going to say Hip-Hop has become synonomist with wealth and glamore. Im not going to say that Hip-hop promotes Sex and violence; But, Iam going to say HIP-Hop has gone out of style.

It is a burned out culture because those that were in the rap game for the last ten to twenty years are no longer "HOT" and those who are presentely in the game bring the same style to the table, skinny jeans, mohawk fade, and a body full of tattoos. That is Not Hip-Hop! that is Punk Rock!

the same stuff that we see in today's Hip-Hop music is what was already done in the 1970's with clubs like CBGB'S and rock groups the Sex Pistols, Sid Vicious, and Iggy Pop. do your research, and you'll see the similarities. Punk Rock was established to go against the normal establishment of Rock N' Roll. it was an anti-establishment kind of music that was created by white teens who rejected disco music. if you listen to Travis Porter's "All The Way Turned Up" and compare it to a punk rock song, you will see the similarities in the music and style more clearly.

This is not HIP-HOP! people say you can't define hip-hop, but most of us know what Hip-Hop is. Hip-Hop was about the inner city Ghetto; it was about DJ's, Breakers, MC's, and graffiti artist coming together through knowledge, peace, Wisdom, and understanding. Hip-hop was about Afrika BamBaataa and the Zulu Nation, Hip-Hop was about the burned out buildings in the South Bronx, Hip-Hop was about Compton, and Niggas Wit Attitude. Hip-Hop was about the five percenters coming together and forming the Native Tounges Posse, it was about Public Enemy. it was about storytellers like Slick Rick, Dana Dane, and Doug E. Fresh, it was about fat gold chains; it was About "Brooklyn's in the House", it was about Dj Marly Marl and the Juice Crew, it was about Boggie Down Productions (RIP Scott La Rock), it was about Tupac, Hammer and The Bay Area, it was about the Crack Epidemic, it was about Biggie Smalls, it was about Eric B. and Rakim, it was about Big Daddy Kane, it was about GangStarr (RIP GURU) and fusing Jazz with Hip-Hop Music, it was About Teddy Railey and the New Jack Swing. and at times it was about THE SOUTH!

Is the South to blame for killing Hip-Hop Music? NO! are the Artist that are out today to blame for Oversaturating the culture of Hip-Hop Music? Yes! are record companies to blame for desecrating the artistic culture of Hip-Hop Music? YES! The reason why I say these two are to blame is because when you move a culture from one trend to another it causes destruction to the value of the culture and becomes non-existant to a certain point. Artists are to blame because their skill level continues to stay at a shallow and superficial state. when they make a record, they make it simply from a club and party stand point. a record is supposed to be multifaced and provide its listeners with a different point of view on every track to show creativity, intellectual and artistic depth. most of the artist talk about the same subjects in their songs Sex, Violence, dance, or Swag. And the male artists talk about having sex with girls, using girls, and categorizing black females as Redbones and dummies. for example if you listened to Gucci Mane's "I don't Love Her" the song explicitly explains how they run a train on a female in the club " Quick to take ya little Diva and treat that Ho like a Slut, she was suckin on Gucci, i had My Dick in her Butt"! these are the type of lyrics we hear on rap cd's all the time, we know this is nothing new women have been sexually explioted since 2 live crew released "As nasty as they wanna be back in 1989. but the subject of sex has already been explored in other albums from the past. also Hip-Hop Music is promoting sexual Promiscuity and mysoginy of females. Besides Nikki Minaj Why aren't their a decent number of female MCees today like there was back in the 1980's. where are the MC Lytes, Monie Loves, Queen Latifas, and Roxanne shante's? is Hip-Hop promoting the disrespect of females by making them voiceless and turning them into Video Vexins? sometimes I wonder why I dont see more female MC's in the game and maybe it is because record companies want to position the black female as a sexual object rather than an artist. and sometimes the ones who are Mcees have to make their come up through a Male rapper and so they mirror that male rapper. for example Nikki Minaj mirrors lil wayne because her flow is sarcastic and braggadocious if you compare her to wayne you will see the similarities. and rappers like lil kim as we all know mirrors biggie because she has a hardcore flow but she perpetuates herself as a prostitute and biggie as her pimp. and the only female to have her own voice without objectifying herself was missy Elliot and she has disappeared for sometime.

As for the so called gangsta rappers or so called "Trap music" we see these artists have not learned their lesson from the shooting of Tupac and biggie I still hear about Gucci mane, lil boosie, Rick Ross and Dj Kali, brag about being SO HOOD, GOIN HARD IN DA PAINT, and making the Trap say AAAY! these are what I call (besides the exception of 50 Cent),TOY RAPPERS. they are not real gangsters,and the people they claim to have known are all fiction and facetious and even if they knew these people they would say to these rappers to keep their name out of their mouth! Rick Ross or William Leonard Roberts II took the stage name from a Man named Freeway Ricky Ross who was responsible for Starting the Crack Epidemic in Los Angles. and yet we want to be like these guys who say Larry Hoover and Big Meech were there Heros. yet Larry Hoover was a domestic terrorist and the man who started the gangsta Deciples in chicago, and Big Meech was a man who started Black Mafia Family which was responsible for large cocaine distributions in Atlanta and Detriot. if you listen to Rick Ross's B.M.F (Blowin Money Fast) you will hear these two names embedded in his hook "They Think Im BIG MEECH, LARRY HOOVER,"! why would we want to glamorize criminals who destroy other people's lives and break up other peoples families? the songs's title does not mean what it says, it means Black Mafia Family! which could only mean that he is promoting gang life and drug distribution to young black listeners.

The dance rappers or Swag rappers are not nessarly negative or positive but they are only biting what has already been done in the past. when i first heard Solja Boy I had to punch myself in the face because this was not music this was POP considered to be RAP! people back then did not consider MC Hammer to be Hip-Hop! because to most people in the rap game he was considered too mainstream to be called a hip-hop artist and gangsta rappers thought he was too soft! what if Hammer and solja Boy switched places? if it wasn't for guys like Kid N Play or Hammer Solja Boy would not have a rap career. and what added insult to injury was Solja boy's mix tape mocked a clult classic called Juice which was way before his time. the point I make here for these group of rappers is that they are not being original! they are recycling old hip-hop dances that have been around since they were born. the dougie is noting more than the tootsie roll, the batman is nothing more than the cabbage patch and the robo cop, and the jerk is nothing more than a condenced form of breaking and poplocking. and so NO! I can't mess with Cali swag because its just fake! todays rap is just biting other peoples styles and it is not original in any way. and in the Hip-Hop Game biting another persons style was considered a cardinal sin and it could get you called out in a mic battle and they could strip you of your crediability if you lose. if you wanted to be an MC you had to follow THE RULES! and one of the most important rules was to be original! what makes you different form the next man thats holding the MIC.

Record Companies are largely responsible for destroying The Hip-Hop culture because they seek to exploit the artist and profit from their royalties and A & R people seek to present a certain image of a rapper to market as a package to the listeners in order to attract the consumers to buy the record. furthermore, if the artist wants to expand his or her creativity on a record the A&R reps will force the artist to go in one perticular direction to keep your audience. and then they find a hit off the record and get the radios to play it in their top twenty rotation and then by that time the song blows up and people have it in their cars and in heavy rotation in the clubs. and then when they make a new music video the artist goes on 106 and park and sucker free sundays to promote the new album and then teens go home and download to their ipods and blast it through their ears until they can remember it. and what the artist is feeding us is not their original words but something that is superficial and unrealistic to promote an image for their listners to follow. if nikki Minaj claims to be a barbie bitch, then women and girls alike would follow this image and start painting their hair green and pink. if wiz kalifa shows his tatoos then every guy would want a body full of tatoos because that is the image people are glamorizing.

Im only 20 years old, I can take master p and no limit records, i can take guys from Cash money records driving around in cars that arn't even theirs. I can even take dipset and Camron sporting diamond jewlery and pink hummers. but I can not take this! I can't stand it! ITS FAKE TO THE EXTREME!

So where are the old school Rappers? Nate Dogg died of a heart attack, GURU died of a stroke, DJ Mr. Magic Died of Heart attack, ODB died of a Heart attack, Apache died of a Heart Attack, Dj Marly Marl had a heart attack but survived and many other rappers that are over the age of forty are either still out on the streets, dead, sick, became preachers, went back to school, or put the mic down because they decided to settle down and have a family. many others are ceo's of record companies while the others are flipping burgers because they forgot to save their money and invest in a home or a secure pension. these guys were the orginal pioneers, but they have no one to speak for them or protect their legacy when their gone from this earth. yea a few got a degree to fall back on but most of them dont have anything to live off of except what they built for themselves through their own music. if they want to protect their legacy scholars in the academic world have to take notice right now at this culture because its fading away year by year and if we continue to allow record companies to destroy hip-hop we may never exist ever agian. and the samething goes for the artist, if they dont start to take notice at how record companies work; the money they make on their records right now they may never see when they retire because they dont have MBA's, Phds or own the publishing titles to their records. the people who own their publishing rights are the people who went to college to study business and contracts and they own the rights to the music they make. do any of these artists know what an ASCAP is? because if most of the old school rappers knew, they would still be making money. notice mainstream radio stations do not play some of the old school rap because if they did, all the old school artists would be making money. the older rappers dont have a social security, or a 401k plan, they dont own stocks, and they dont have AARP membership.

So look Very Closely at that picture again, is this guy going to have a future in 25 years because once his time on the mic is up somebody else is next.

Rap can be considered a hobby but it is definately not a stable career choice. Those who like to rap and respect the art form are underground they are not mainstream! so if you want to hear real rap go to a subway station in NYC, go to the South BRONX, go to Brooklyn, or Queens. and jsut listen to regular guy just spittin a hot bar and jump into a cypher and then after that TAKE your butt to work so you can pay your bills. because rap is a fun sport but its definately not a career.

Today while I was watching 106 and park I said Fuck Roci and Terrence and get REAL! we are in RECESSION! NO MORE PIPEDREAMS! pipedreams are for crackheads, because once you get that high you never come off it. ROCI and Terrence are nothing but drug dealers feeding kids PIPEDREAMS and there distributer BET is paying them to sell it to ditzy black teenagers with no abitions in life and no career goals. I HATE RAP MUSIC! I LOVE HIP-HOP! but today Im giving up on you! no more pipedreams I got bills to pay, because you cant Make it rain with food stamps!

boys in the hood want to be either a Basket ball player, a rapper, or a drug dealer

but I say they can be professors, doctors, lawyers, or politicians like Obama

so today I ask children to give up on hip-hop!

The castration of the Black males

Out of all of these images, you will never hear a positive thing said about a blackman. Day after day, Black men are bombarded with these sterotypical images of how society expects a blackman to act in a society that use to lynch, burn, and castrate black males by the dozens. yet, we have a black president that represents all ethnicities accept the one he tends to ignore on a daily basis, the blackman!

Blackmen have struggled to build kingdoms for his black queens to live in, but when the world is against him, and his black queen decides to turn against him. then he starts to realize that the whole world wants him dead.

Feminism is the number one killer of good blackmen! and it is also the destruction of the black race altogether by white society. because of this theory, black men are not allowed to become men, but to submit to hatred and anti-male statements quoted by "some" African-American women who feel that black men have done them wrong in some way. if a sister feels entitled to speak her mind on why blackmen disrespect black women, she never asks herself why do blackwomen disrespect black men? but to simply put the problems on the male and blame his masculenity is a cop out of her responsibilities to what led to the problems in the first place.

if an African-American woman acts in a disparinging way towards a black man, she thinks she is entitled to do it to a blackman because she is A STRONG BLACK WOMAN! and if he cant handle her then he is considered a weak blackman!

I have seen too many good brothers go through this problem, but I realized after all these years. it was never my fault. but our fault as a community as to why blackmen have been belittled by black women. the cycle starts at the root of the black family. and that root begins with the father. An eventhough, I live in a two parent home, most of the blackmen and black women I have ran into have not.

Here is my example of the deadly cycle

1. black child is born out of wedlock to parents aged 15-20.

2. Black Father is either unemployeed or lives on section 8 housing vouchers.

3. Black father has either a G.E.D or is employeed at minmum wage

4. black father has got another woman pregnant or has cheated on his girlfriend

5. black father leaves his girl a single mother and sends money for child support

6. Black mother is forced to live on welfare and WIC to support her childern and also public assistence.

7.young black girl/boy is raised by single mother and rarely sees his/her father

8. young black girl/boy becomes a teen in high school and goes after guys/girls that constantly get into trouble in school.

9. boys look for father figures in the street that can help them become a man

10. girls look for boys in school that remind them of their fathers that left them

11.in middle school to college, girls put down boys and tease them for not looking like a lil wayne or an athlete.

12. by 17 girls start to sleep and fall in love with a guys that have a criminal record and go in and out of jail and do not have a high school diploma.

13. girls get pregnant by this guy and she is now a teen mom.

14. black women in college 18 to 21 go after atheletes as opposed to engineers or people studying to get an advance degree.

15. black women decide to lable the less desirable black men "NICE GUYS" because in their minds they dont represent a thug, an athelete, or a well six pack chisled black man with muscular features.

16. black women get the perfect black man and decide that she will not submit or comfort him

17. she decides to start drama by thowing things and instigating arguements in order to see his rage.

18. black man either ends the relationship or cheats because of her baggage and she becomes more bitter.

19. she dislikes dating blackmen or distrust blackmen altogether.

20. every mistake a black man makes with her she is quick to end the relationship before it even starts, even at a minor incident.

21. she starts to resent all black men by age 40

22. she finds a nice hard working average black man to spew her baggage on and becomes her doormat for healing past relationships

23. if she is a single mother, she gets a nice hard working blackman to raise her kids and marry him while she stays in contact with her ex-baby's father

24. nice black men are talked down on by the media, by white america, and by barack obama, worst of all black women.

25. the media always puts out that blackmen are criminals, abusers, cheaters, and deadbeat dads.

I didnt write this article as a bashing or a belittlement of African-American women, I am pointing out the facts. the problems lay within our community and it is up to us to solve them.

I dont wanna hear from another sister black men are abusers, blackmen are cheaters, black men are gay and on the down low, all blackmen got to jail or anything like that.

I find it insulting that a sista would say there are no good blackmen, but they are every where, dirving a bus, collecting your garbage,cleaning your houses and fixing your plumbing. and they are also in school getting degrees and making a stable living for themselves. and all they ask for is a woman to stand by their side and apprecieate them for who they are and not what society paint them out to be. these guys deserve a woman in their lives, and if you dont want to stand by them then who will?

if we are going to end the problem of negative sterotypes and the entitlement complex of African-American women you must start admitting your faults and stop blaming us for the problems of individual people who you've encountered in the past. and you also must drop the unrealistic expectations that blackmen must live up to in your eyes.

sista, TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS!

1990s Vs 2000s which was better to you?

The music, the clothes, And the crazy fads. Being born in 1990 and as a child growing up in the 90s. I can honestly say, things were a hell of a lot better than what we have endured now over these last ten years. We never had these stupid social networking websites, we never had texting, or any of this technological crap! we never had wars, we never had FAT KIDS either.

In the 90s kids went outside and played, we had the latest toys, we knew the latest songs, we knew the latest dance moves, we had a culture!

for some reason, in the 2000's we never really had a culture, all we had was wars, a dead economy, a stupid president, and a so called terrorist!

and its sad to say all the next future generation of kids will have left is computers, they will never experience the joys of playing street games, or sitting down to write a passionate letters or writing in general!

youtube, facebook, myspace, and countless other social networks have destroyed our way of life FOR the WORST! our thoughts are no longer private people can see what you think! and everything you post on a wall is out there for the whole world to see!

what kind of a world do we want our children to live in? a world with a lack of creativity or artistic expression? or a world free from the belief that we as human beings have to destroy another group of human beings for the sake of protecting god and country?

the music of todays youth glorify a state of mysogony, drugs, and gang life, there is a lack of creativity. RnB music has been watered down to lyrics of sex and infidelity. and our sense of reality about the world is lost!

when our we as a people going to wake up and realize that we dont have a culture anymore?

do you think the 1990's was the last great generation or is this a sign that we have lost our morals since september 11, 2001?

when our we going to live again and raise our childern the way our parents raised us?

we have no culture anymore? we have nothing to define the times accept two planes hitting two buildings!

our we going to start living again? or are we already dead?